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Saturday, 14 November 2009

  • A Few Thoughts On Birth Control

    Let's say someone told you that you could take a magical pill that would make you lose weight & keep you thin and you wouldn't have to diet or exercise. You would just be required to take this pill once a day, at the same time every day & in order to remain slender, you must continue using this pill for as long as you wanted to remain thin. The monthly cost of this pill would be around $40 or more. Of course, being that magical weight loss pills have come and gone, often with fatal results, your skepticism would prompt you to inquire about the risks and side effects of this pill, even if it was your doctor recommending this drug. And what if your doctor told you these were some of the potential side effects:

    • Reduced or increased acne
    • Slight nausea
    • Emotional sensitivity
    • Mood swings
    • Irregular bleeding or spotting
    • Breast tenderness
    • Decreased libido

    Taking this pill could also make you a target for:

    • Increased risk of cervical and breast cancers
    • Increased risk of heart attack and stroke
    • Migraines
    • Higher blood pressure
    • Gall bladder disease
    • Infertility
    • Benign liver tumors
    • Decreased bone density
    • Yeast overgrowth and infection
    • Increased risk of blood clotting

    Would you then take the pill, gambling your health and hoping you wouldn't be in the percentage of people at risk for various health dangers? Or would you look at your doctor like he was crazy and say "No thanks."?

    As much as I struggle with my weight, I don't think I would do it. In fact, and this is something I've never told anyone, I begged my doctor to put me on Phentermine last year after I got dumped. I was convinced I would be alone for the rest of my life unless I became skinny, and my doc at  the time had prescribed my coworker the drug and she lost 50 lbs (she is now having serious health problems). I took it for a month and almost lost my mind. I experienced every possible side-effect the drug warned of: insomnia, dry mouth, digestive issues, mood swings, depression, nervousness and anxiety. Granted, the depression and mood swings were a part of my life at that time anyway, but the insomnia and anxiety and digestive issues (I ate next to nothing but felt like their was a boulder in my tummy 24/7-painful), were intolerable. The moment I stopped taking even the half dose, I started sleeping and feeling normal again. It wasn't worth it.

  • Yet, there are tons of women, women I know, friends of mine who go to the gynecologist or dermatologist and sign up for a pill without asking questions or researching the risks. And this pill, with these known side effects, are being recommended by doctor after doctor. Because the FDA won't investigate the risks or look at the long term implications, doctors don't see anything to be concerned about & they recommend the Pill and usually nothing else, for birth control in women.

    Now if I can be so bold, let's look at this from a common sense perspective. You are taking a drug. This drug alters your body's natural cycle, the thing that makes us women (our ability to bear children) and tricks it into thinking it is pregnant, even though you are not. These synthetic hormones are essentially attacking your natural hormones and messing with your entire reproductive system. When most of us take drugs, we take them over the short term. Long term drug users are considered addicts and addicts have severe and often fatal health problems. How is it that we think taking a drug every day (or using a IUD or ring or a shot to deliver the drug) won't harm us? I'm not trying to be an alarmist here. I'm just being practical. Just remove the "BC is totally safe" filter from your brain for a second and evaluate this from an entirely common sense angle and I think you might bee a bit concerned too.

    Here's the problem. I'm in a hypocritical and potentially judgemental position to be talking about this issue. I've never used birth control or had the need. I don't know what it feels like to have that anxiety or to be desperate for a solution to a problem. The solution most women have come up with is the Pill since hormonal BC was introduced in the 60's. It's known the be to most effective and convenient. It doesn't interrupt your life too much to pop a pill, but a condom in the middle of a passionate moment is. I get that. I'm not trying to be a jerk here. I'm just trying to be honest with other women about something that has serious potential health risks that most people ignore. Just because something is convenient and effective doesn't mean it is safe, and that is the impression many women on the Pill have. It's safe, my doctor recommended it, there's nothing to worry about. 100 million women use the Pill globally, so all those people can't be wrong...or can they? They can, and they are.

    Heart disease and cancer are the top 2 killers of women, and those percentages have risen in the last 10 yrs, while heart disease has dropped in men. Those are potential risk factors for the Pill. Can no one see the correlation? There are serious health risks involved when many women start taking the Pill as early as age 15 and continue using it off and on THROUGHOUT their lifetime. I'm beginning to wonder if it will get so bad that the moment a young woman bleeds, she's on the Pill. When the concept of hormonal birth control was being developed by Searle, the pharmaceutical company noted that having a drug marketed to women that they would use throughout their lifetime would be monetarily advantageous. The companies that market hormonal birth control make billions of dollars a year. They market it for something as simple as adult acne now. They also have lawsuits that they settle yearly as well. Remember when the birth control patch came out several years ago and how heavily it was marketed on TV and in mags and women went out in droves to get it? Then the lawsuits started because the Patch delivered too much fake estrogen in a women's system, causing deadly strokes and blood clots. The Patch was pulled. There are similar lawsuits pending on a Yaz and Yasmine and yet it is still being prescribed by doctors and taken by women. Because it is still deemed safe by the FDA.

    Ok so those are the health risks, which in my mind, are enough to cause serious consideration. But then, as a christian, I have to evaluate the moral/ethical implications that taking birth control poses. I'm not Catholic and I'm not going to go into a dissertation of why preventing the birth of a child is a sin. I believe for some people it can be. I am of the mind that if you don't want kids, you probably shouldn't be married, but that is me taking the bible pretty literally and I don't expect everyone else to. If you aren't prepared to to handle the implications of having a child, you aren't responsible enough to have sex, an activity in which reproduction is the end result. Children are a gift and in our culture they are almost viewed as the enemy - they take your time your money, your attention, your life. They should instead be shuffled off to day cares and schools to get them out of the way. It's really quite sad. Kids are so incredible. We as Americans should be ashamed at the way we treat, respond and think about children. Since I value children, conception is a big deal to me. The Pill is a known abortifacient. No matter what the percentages are, if you conceive while on the pill, the Pill has changed your body to be a harmful environment for your child and it will kill it. Plain and simple. Your body is a human furnace for your child and it will never get a chance to implant itself on the wall of your uterus because your uterus won't allow it to. Your child then dies. Yeah sure the percentages are small, according to the pharmaceutical companies, but the fact that it can happen, presents a serious ethical quandary. If I believe life begins at conception, as do many pro-lifers, then if I take the Pill, I am a hypocrite and potential murderer who is more concerned about convenience than life. I didn't really want to address this on this post, but I never knew that about the Pill until college when my Ethics professor introduced it. I didn't believe him, because it seemed preposterous. So many pastors tell engaged couples to get on the Pill for the first few years of marriage, why would they do that if the Pill could cause abortions? I researched and found my ethics professor to be right and that made my choice there. I have had several discussions with various engaged friends and the overwhelming choice for them is the Pill when it comes to birth control and even in the face of these facts, Christian women whom I admire, choose to take a drug that can kill a baby.

    If we are going to say taking the Pill is about our bodies, our sexuality and being in control, then we really need to make sure we know what we are getting into. Your sexuality is in your control, but your libido is shot cuz you're on the pill. You are in control of your body, but not cancer or heart disease. We can't pretend we are invincible, even though we are women.

    I'll get into alternative methods of birth control next week.

    Sources:

    http://www.americanheart.org/downloadable/heart/123783441267009Heart%20and%20Stroke%20Update.pdf

    http://www.fda.gov/downloads/Drugs/GuidanceComplianceRegulatoryInformation/EnforcementActivitiesbyFDA/WarningLettersandNoticeofViolationLetterstoPharmaceuticalCompanies/UCM143477.pdf

    http://www.fda.gov/ForConsumers/ByAudience/ForWomen/ucm118465.htm

    http://blogs.abcnews.com/health_insider/2009/01/think-birth-con.html

    http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/amex/pill/peopleevents/e_effects.html

    http://www.news-medical.net/news/2005/07/11/11582.aspx

     

     

     

Thursday, 05 November 2009

  • Birth Control Part 1

    Disclaimer: I have never had any need for birth control as I've never had sex. So it's pretty obnoxious of me to be writing a post such as this one. It was inspired by a fellow Xangans post on the topic. That said, I would like to point out that I tend to investigate and do a lot of research about any decision I make. I'm not one of those traditionally conformist types who just does what everyone else is doing because everyone else is doing it. I'm going to do my best to state my views without pulling my belief system into it, being that I feel there are a lot of valid reasons for making informed choices regarding birth control devoid of any moral or religious implications.

    I'm still gathering a few links and sources so I don't throw out my stats willy nilly without anything to back them up, so while I do that, please satiate my curiosity, and answer a couple questions.

    If you feel uncomfortable divulging this information, you are welcome to submit it anonymously by logging out and leaving an anonymous comment. Both men and women are welcome to participate.

    Questions
    1. Do you use birth control?
    2. If so, what is your preferred method or the one that you use most often (condom, UID, Ortho-Evra, Yasmine, diaphragm...)?
    3. If not, what do you plan on using for birth control in the future (if this is something you've considered before)?
    4. Why do you use/will you use that method of birth control? What is your primary reason? Are you satisfied with your choice?
    5. Was your current method of BC recommended to you by a doctor or friend or did you do research before selecting it?
    6. What are some of the benefits of your BC method, besides the not getting preggo thing?
    7. What are some of the cons or side effects of your BC method?

    Feel free to add whatever else you wish.

    My thoughts on BC will be up tomorrow.

Tuesday, 03 November 2009

  • The Conversation I Have Every #$&%^ Day

    I am going to do my best to reenact a conversation  (ala sonnetjoy) that I have on a DAILY basis.

    I work for a family business - we sell insurance and we do home insulation. The insulation guys are rarely around because they install the insulation all day long, & we field the calls. I technically only work on the insurance side of the biz, except for the phone answering portion. Well, the owner of the insulation business took out a 6 month ad in the local shoppers guide selling steel 50-gallon barrels for $5 each. The barrels (that stored the insulation product until it was used) went like hotcakes and we were soon sold out in the first few weeks. But the ad runs every week on Friday and we get a fresh batch of calls every week asking for barrels. Thing is I find these calls disconcerting, because they always go something like this:

    Me: Hello, Family Owned Insulation Company, this is Brooke, how can I help you?

    Barrel Person: Where're you located?

    Me: In Kaufman

    BP: Where in Kaufman?

    Me: *names closest intersection by my office, which is smack dab in the middle of town*

    BP: er...what're you closest to?

    Me: the Exxon station. I'm sorry, how can I help you?

    BP: I wonted to come get some of them thar bahruhls (closest phonetic representation of how 75% of BP's says the word barrels)

    Me: Well, we are sold out.

    BP: When you gonna get summore in?

    Me: it will be at least a month

    BP: ohkay thanks. bye.

    Now on the surface, this conversation seems innocuous. They are just calling because they need a receptacle in which to burn their trash or store feed, right? If so, why the interrogation over the exact location of our offices? Granted, this is a business, but THEY don't know that. The ad doesn't state that we are. I don't know about you, but if someone is selling a car or an item that's typically stored OUTSIDE, the first question I ask is NEVER going to be their physical address. Talk about making someone think you are a crook. Geez. But I promise you, the majority (over 70%) of these calls that we have received inquiring about bahruhls, the person always wants to know up front our exact location. That's just weird, and I'm not going to be crazy and tell you so you can come to our office after dark and take something you don't want to pay $5 for. Sorry local petty thieves - you have been thwarted by the Receptionist once again!

     

     

Friday, 30 October 2009

  • Dating is like driving and you're doing it wrong

    I was texting my friend the other night about various topics, one of which was the current sad state of dating amongst christian singles. I would hazard to say that a majority of the singles I know are neither dating nor do they have a significant other and it's been that way for a while. This is everyone from the shy to the extroverted the plain jane to the smokin' hot joe. We all have great friendships, busy lives, high level of involvement in our churches and zero love lives, unless of course you count the church as your love life (like me. It's a nun thing.)

    And that's fine. Really it is. Singleness isn't a disease, even though I wish I could find the cure. Wait...what? Anyway, full satisfied lives do not have to include a significant other, but gosh it's nice if they do. Last night during bible study one of the girls who is getting married in about a month, talked about seeing and experiencing God's love for her through her fiance and it really choked me up. She said she never considered being anything other than single, and she never believed or thought happiness came from the result of having another person love you. But throughout her life she said she's felt a pervasive, underlying sadness that she has just learned to cope with, not identifying it with loneliness, but just the way her life had turned out (she's been through a lot). It wasn't from self-pity that she said these things, it was more a statement of fact. And that several months into dating the man that is now her fiance she noted that the sadness had disappeared and it was around the time she started dating. That all the things she hears women struggle with in their relationships with men, she has never encountered with her fiance. She experienced God's love in the way that he brought her this man when she didn't really want him, and not only that, he fits her and loves her in a way that is so Christ-like, she feels undeserving and in awe of what has happened to her. And she wasn't just saying these things or viewing her relationships through rose-colored classes. That's not her at all. So to hear that was somewhat inspiring.

    Anyway, back to topic. When I talk to people who are in successful relationships (by successful I mean, healthy and headed toward the altar), the man took the lead from the beginning and continued to lead when the next steps came along (defining the relationship, becoming official, saying I love you first, proposing etc). I see that and I'm thinking there's a strong correlation between healthy or dysfunctional based on who is the initiator and the reciprocator. Within the realm of christian dating, christian guys tend to prefer traditional gender roles and indicate that they prefer women who aren't aggressive....they say that they'll make the first move when given the chance. The problem is many of these guys who talk a good game, are basically...pansies. Their theories, while well and good and something I'm on board with, don't ever play out. They aren't asking women out, they aren't making the first move, they are just....sitting there...staring at women like, "What now?"

    In my text to Amanda, I likened this to driving. A guy and a girl go to the car and the guy says "Hey, I want to drive". The girl gives guy a look like, "Oh really?", then hands over the keys begrudgingly, guy will get in the drivers seat and in the christian dating world, he'll then turn to the girl and look at her like "Now what?".
    Dude, you're behind the wheel! You asked to be in the drivers seat. You said you wanted it. You're the one with the keys. You're the only person who can push the accelerator. It's all you my friend! As much as guys say they don't want the aggressive woman, what they really want is the girl to walk up to them and say "If you asked me to dinner, I'd say yes." and the guy to go "Oh ok! I can handle this no risk, no rejection thing. Sure! Where do you want to go?" "Olive Garden pick me up at 7pm tomorrow night" "Great! Will do, see ya then." I just took the keys broseph - if I do that I'm the one driving. Not you. Great job on the "initiator" stuff you wax so eloquently about. That would be a driving FAIL. Better luck next time.

     

     

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